So recently (2 months ago during my final exams) I saw a video on YouTube titled "nice guys" feat YouTubers like Chestersee,Nigahiga,Kevjumba,Cathy,Dtrix and Kina. And as hilarious as that video might be, it is ridiculous.
After seeing that, I had apprehensions as to what they "actually" meant by nice guys. So I did what am really popular for doing.. Wildly clicking on every possible link on google and YouTube about nice guys or the infamous slogan "nice guys finish last"
Why infamous? Because it is embarrassing for us girls to hear something like "Girls only date douchebags." Uhm, that's not how I speak but those are the exact words I read or heard as I googled/YouTube-d my way to enlightenment.
So I know 2 thoughts might have instantly popped into your head?
(Why are we reading this?)
Errrr no, not that question.
1. Isn't that video pretty old?
2. What? How can you not know the nice guy concept?
Yes it's old. But I just very recently stumbled upon it. So get over it.
And two, trends reach my country pretty late. We were still Orkutting and writing crap in scrapbooks when people of the west had started Facebook-ing and tweeting. Yup.
So back to the topic at hand..
Seriously?
Girls date douchebags?
My tone makes me sound as if I'm pointing fingers or acting like a feminist.
But let me explain.
Ok, all you guys out there having such a perception need to get a few things straight.
If you are a nice guy n you've always seen rejection, you are
1. NOT alone
Come on. Everyone gets rejected in life. Some directly. Some indirectly. Like guys. They are always expected to ask out the girls. Girls have too much of self pride. So the poor guys build up all their courage and... Bamm. But that's how the social cycle's been going around for years.
And the girls. Yeah so girls, they refresh their crush's profile page info until one day when they see "single-> committed" . Ah, heartbreaking moment.
*But if you are one of those girls who actually asked a guy out, could you please leave some tips in the comments section. We all need advice.*
2.You are chasing the wrong girl:
you say girls run after douche-dogs. But what if that girl is just like the guy she's running after, not "douchy" or whatever they call it but his types. After all, you fall for people of your intellectual level- same or higher. Never lower. Well that is if you are smart. If not, then those girls are definitely not worth your time, efforts and love.
3. You perceived it wrong:
Sometimes, girls just want to be friends. They aren't giving you hints all the freaking time. She called- it's a hint. She says I'm her best friend- she's definitely got a thing for me. She gave me a gift- that's it, am asking her out .
seriously... What the heck?
She might just be needing a buddy.
And your actions are bound to send her running away with arms held high up and screeching her way away from you.
Just like the effect that the "I just met you, but I love you ." girls have on guys.
Deny all you want, but you are guilty and you know that. Well there are so many girls who've told me that a guy asked them out saying he caught her subtle hints. What are these "hints" anyway? Are they dropping little chits saying "ask me" "ask me out now" "I've got a crush on you, can't you see" . Unless you come across those, then you have a perception problem.
And lastly,
4. If u say girls run behind jerks, guys run behind dolls. Straight hair, hot figure, hairless, spotless, tanned/bleached bodies and a whole shop of perfumes and layers of makeup on them. But not heart. Not intellect too. The 'B' s are their areas of interest. B=brain? I think, NOT! If u give importance to superficiality over feelings ,over character, over nature.. Well then, who are you to judge or pick who she dates and doesn't.
There are always nice girls. Nice girls could say they finish last or well don't finish at all and end up on a couch watching soap operas with 45 cats. That cranky old woman you are scared of might have actually been some really nice girl who some nice guy overlooked. Or FRIENDZONED.. See how bad and sad that is.
Another serious issue is friendzoning. Some guys are so clingy that most girls find it necessary to make it obvious to them that they have been promoted to the friendzone. Or worse, bro-zone. Ozone :-P
I mean why would a sane person go around making others realize that they are just friends all the time. You are pushing yourself on her boy. Get a hold of yourself.
So please, stop with that ridiculous thing you guys say.
There has to be a glitch. Most girls tend to fall for guys who care. If you run away when put in the friendzone and appear only when she is single, how is she supposed to believe you or trust that you would be there in case some issues happen in your relation. Probably you'll pack your bags and leave!
Or the girl might just be happy in the present state. Committed / Single and happy.
When such a state is reached, she doesn't really want to rush into stuff.
So many guys ask out a girl within a week of interaction. That seems desperate.
Or even the" are you single?" line.
So dear guys,
Either you're not a nice guy, or she's not the right /nice girl. Or it isn't meant to be.
But it could also be the timing, maybe years from now, she might realize and you both might get married and have kids and cats together. Unless , you only want to get lai...
WAIT, don't even get me started on that!!!!
Urghhhhhhhh.
- Appiqué<3
