Confidence

Hello.
I'm definitely going to do a confidence part 2,3,4 and so on. But for now, quick thoughts worth mentioning.
So after my recent gig, the one where I started stammering in my interview because I was so full of self doubt and kept looking down upon myself, I started looking around for youtube videos that taught you somehow to improve your confidence.
Today as I was going through my newsfeeds I notice Miley Cyrus's nomination for icon of the year.
Yea, I've liked her page and I did love her in Hannah Montana.
So I start thinking about it and I think she's worth it. Worth the nomination. Atleast she's not full of self doubt. Atleast she's not going underground after  people went on this public display of rage and disguist as a reaction to her recent videos. She still has fans. Still has people who adore her, probably don't look up to her but appreciate her talent (singing) and that's bc she isn't giving up.
To be really honest I do not appreciate the videos, but the songs are good.  People can dislike her stuff but there is absolutely no need for people to go around expressing their disguist in such a cruel manner. Such comments have the power to  break anybody. Anybody.
All her gigs are a different topic or an array of topics but what I want to point out is that..
There will be times when even the most loyal fans and friends of a person may not believe in their work. There might be a time when you have to compete and probably will lose to your friend, there will be people waiting to pull you down or to watch with great enjoyment as life pulls you down. But the true character of a person and the true meaning of life can only be deciphered during such testing times.
Believe in yourself.
I lack self confidence. I might just be the most underconfident person on this planet. But this event, this loss, this rejection should teach me to change that about myself but not to stop trying.
You are your only friend,  closest friend and your  most bitter enemy. You can push yourself into an abyss or pull yourself out of the shittiest hell hole.
-Appiqué<3

Interview

Hey Appiquakes!!!

Today I faced the first interview of my life. It was for the student contingent leader posts and I did not perform well, following which I did not make it through to the next rounds.
Today I'll be telling you about the top 5 things that you should pay heed to during any interview.
In the reverse order.

5. Be brief : No one gives a damn about your life stories. You might have interesting events to talk about, but they don't have the time for it. Do not quote about past instances even if they make perfect sense to you. Be short and precise. Eliminate bullcrap.
For eg: when posed with what I would want to do as a ladies representative, I started quoting about bad events that have happened in colg with my lady friends. So, you can understand the predicament that the interviewer might have faced.

4. Attractive language : Nobody cares about the content. As long as you can show your creative side and prove yourself as an eloquent speaker, you are  safe. People get instantly attracted to good vocab. And nowadays people suffer from "bad listening skills" . So you just have to add a little bit of glitz and you are there.

3. Have a good answer to " Introduce yourself" : That is the standard first question. It determines (Generally) if you have been successful in getting the attention of the interviewer. Grabbing the attention is important. It is important for you to leave a lasting impression,  a good one on him/ her even if it involves a little lying/ drama. Do not brag or show off. Nothing is attractive about it. But do spice the intro up. You sway them at the start and you'll be fine.

2. Be confident : Probably the most difficult task for people like me with hyper anxiety disorder or panic attacks. Confidence is a must. Like I said, your content might just be preposterous but if you exude confidence and sell it to them, they'll buy any platypus shit. All they want to know is how you carry yourself and whether or not you crumble under pressure.
Stage fear runs in my family. My mother is extremely stage sick. So she has always forced me into theatre/oratory competitions/plays/ads so I get rid of the fear. But it's a foe-y-frenemy. It's stuck to me like a conjoined twin at the hip.
Don't screw up. Sometimes you are just the perfect choice. You have to do this confidently to put forth that you deserve it.

And lastly,
1. Think and smile :  We have a tendency of blabbering under the cloudy weathers of anxiety. So when posed with a question, let it sink in, think for a moment, take a deep breath and answer. Just replying on the go makes it a question answer round. You will emerge as a winner if you are able to steer a viva round into an eased and relaxed conversation.
If you hyperventilate, try making too many body gestures, blink a lot, shake a lot, stutter, talk without pausing for breath, it goes out to show that you aren't capable of pulling off your own skin in public.
Imagine your dream company is in college for placement and you are the deserving candidate,  it's a do or die situation. You want it? You've got to shed all your inhibitions and let it out. But be tranquil, calm, serene. Show them you do not crumble under pressure.

You might not be popular or might not have a strong resumé, dynamic persona, excellent grades, co-curricular activities. They all come 2nd in line to confidence and character.

I hope this helps you Appiquettes. I'm going to try and improve myself and my oratory skills. You are free to take tips from the above goof -ups I made.
Goodluck.
Charm them all.
-Appiqué <3.